Monday, October 24, 2016

Texting and Dating

By David Wygant


Recently, I received an email that was really disturbing.  

It just seems like the younger generation is so technology-reliant when it comes to dating that they don't even understand the art of communication.  

 I'm going to share the email, then I'm going to tell you why I was so outraged by it.  A 17 year-old kid wrote this to me: 

Monday, October 17, 2016

Picture This

By Gini (member)

I'll offer up a preemptive apology to the male members who read this.  

As all of my experience here is based on reading and looking at men’s profiles, I can't attest to whether this problem manifests itself in women’s photos as well. 

We're all adults here, right?  We know that most, if not all, of the people on this site have had prior relationships.  But when I'm on the site looking at a potential match's photos, I cringe when I run across a photo of a nice looking man that has obviously had another person cut out of it.  

Picture This

By Gini (member)

I'll offer up a preemptive apology to the male members who read this.  

As all of my experience here is based on reading and looking at men’s profiles, I can't attest to whether this problem manifests itself in women’s photos as well. 

We're all adults here, right?  We know that most, if not all, of the people on this site have had prior relationships.  But when I'm on the site looking at a potential match's photos, I cringe when I run across a photo of a nice looking man that has obviously had another person cut out of it.  

Picture This

By Gini (member)

I'll offer up a preemptive apology to the male members who read this.  

As all of my experience here is based on reading and looking at men’s profiles, I can't attest to whether this problem manifests itself in women’s photos as well. 

We're all adults here, right?  We know that most, if not all, of the people on this site have had prior relationships.  But when I'm on the site looking at a potential match's photos, I cringe when I run across a photo of a nice looking man that has obviously had another person cut out of it.  

Monday, October 10, 2016

3 Things Not To Eat on a First Date

By Avery Williamson

So you’ve met someone here on the TangoWire network, and you’re about to meet for your first date. You’ve picked out a nice restaurant…nothing too fancy, nothing too cheap…and you’re on your way out the door. You look great, you’re confident, and you’ve thought of every detail. Fantastic!

But when you sit down and look at the menu, there’s still something you should keep in mind: what NOT to order. After all, you are still trying to impress your date. And nothing says “bad impression” like a shirt or blouse covered with soup stains.

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Six Things NOT To Do On A First Date!

Please welcome back guest blogger Heidi as she shares her personal insight on first-date faux pas...

This applies to both men and women. I’m not taking sides this time, but I do think there is some etiquette that should be followed when first meeting someone.

1. Typically when you first meet someone, the date or get-together isn’t that long, so do you really need to bring your cell phone with you?  Unless you have small children at home with a babysitter, leave the phone in your car or turn off the volume and do not take calls during your date. This time was set aside to meet someone new that could potentially be that special someone, so don’t blow it by taking a phone call at the table.  If you feel you must check your phone for whatever reason, go to the restroom to do so.

Monday, September 19, 2016

Survey results: Soulmates

By Avery Williamson

Sometime ago we wanted to have some fun on our online dating websites. We thought a survey would be the perfect thing since they're intended to be quick and fun, and they can also be extremely informative. Let's take an example and pull some basic data from the responses.

The first survey question we asked was: What do you think of Soulmates?

Thousands of members responded (thank you!) to this question. The results are below:

Monday, September 12, 2016

Treating Others With Respect - The Ultimate Dating Test

By David Wygant

Recently, I was patiently waiting in line to get out of a parking garage in Beverly Hills, California (a place that already has a reputation for snobbery), when all of a sudden the woman in the car in front of me started yelling and screaming.  

Alarmed, I rolled down my window to listen to the commotion. As it turns out, there was no emergency. The shrieking woman was yelling and screaming because she had gone over the maximum time for free parking, and owed $2.00 to the attendant. 

Monday, September 5, 2016

A Woman's Perspective: Gentlemen, Spruce Up Your Profiles!

By Gini (site member)

I've noticed a distinct lack of descriptions on a lot of members' pages.  The second thing I look at after I look at a photo of the member is his "More about me" narrative.  If a man doesn't put anything in that space, I am much more likely to not look twice at him, no matter how nice looking he is.  And I found that many men leave that space blank.

At first I was very discouraged, but it got me to thinking: many men don't know how to describe themselves.  Maybe they don't know how.  Maybe they're too shy or modest.  Or maybe they just don't know what to say. 

So I have a suggestion for those verbally challenged men out there: put it in a random question list format.  They're easy, they're fun and, most importantly, they tell us a lot about the other person in a non-threatening, easy-to-understand way.  

Monday, August 29, 2016

Three Things You Can Do Right When Sending an Online Dating Email

By Cameron Keene


When you sit down to write your initial email, you should:

• Keep it short and sweet. Be honest, be charming and don't ramble. Two to three paragraphs is a good length for the initial email. As time goes on and you exchange more information, you can gradually increase the length of your emails, but avoid going over two pages even after you've corresponded for a while. 


Monday, August 22, 2016

Stop Texting And Start Talking!

By David Wygant

This week's article is directed to the women out there, but I know all you guys can relate to this situation as well.

It is difficult for most guys to approach a group of women. Women are just brutal about going out in packs of three or four, and then huddling together, whispering, laughing and exchanging mysterious confidences. It's really intimidating for a lot of guys to approach a group of women in order to meet one woman in whom he's interested.

There is something I see going on time and time again in these "packs" of women that I really wanted to address. I can't tell you how many times I've gone out and seen a man approach one of these packs of women, and there will be one woman who sits there texting someone who is not even there, but giving the text recipient a blow by blow of what's going on around her.

You can imagine the texts now. "Oh Mary, you should really come here. There are so many cute guys here." I would want to ask our texter this: How would YOU know? You're not even paying attention!

When you're out and with a group of people, don't text another person who is not there. It's hard enough for guys to approach you in the first place. You don't want to be that woman who is just texting away nonstop, because it means that you are not present in the moment. If you're not present in the moment, then you're going to miss tons of opportunities to meet someone.

So from now on if you're out with a group and feel compelled to have a text chat, take yourself to the bathroom and do it when you're alone. Don't text people when you're in a restaurant or bar when you're out to meet people. Spending time texting instead of talking means you’ll miss a lot of real, live connections.

Don’t give your attention to someone who isn't there, because in the process you’re also ignoring people who are there. In particular, you are ignoring any men with whom you could possibly be connecting at that moment. Do you really want those men to look at you and dismiss you as rude? Do you want them to think, “She’s not even paying attention. What a waste of my time she’d be?”

So start opening up your energy and you mouth – talk! The truth is that if you are out in one of these "women packs," you are going to have to bring something to the table if you want men to approach you and engage in any interaction. Four women will be out together in a football-like huddle, and they will wonder why guys aren't approaching them. If you’re busy texting, the guys around you don’t want to interrupt and they feel awkward trying to get your attention away from your cell phone.

If you want men to approach you in this situation, your energy has to change. You have to smile. You've got to face the room, and not have your back turned to the crowd of people around you, which makes it almost impossible for men to approach you.

When you open your energy by facing the crowd and smiling, you make it easier for men to break into your pack. So the next time you're out and one of your friends is texting, grab her phone and tell her to put it away. Remind her why you’re out and encourage her to be open and positive. You will all have a much more enjoyable night!




David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching and his website, his advice has transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of people. His funny, yet direct, approach to dating, sex and relationships has revolutionized how people meet and interact. He offers his advice across a wide media spectrum including MTV, The New York Times, MSNBC, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health and E! Entertainment Television -- as well as on over 2,000 radio shows.

Monday, August 15, 2016

Walk Away


By David Wygant

In order to grab the woman you want, you need to learn the art of walking away. 

Most men will not walk away. Most men make the mistake of meeting a new woman, then clinging to her immediately in hopes moving things forward. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work with most women, who don’t appreciate such an immediate, full-court press.

If you go to a party, find a woman you want to talk to, smother her, and won’t leave her alone for the duration of the evening, your attractiveness will quickly diminish in her eyes as the evening continues. If, however, you are willing to give her some time and space, you’ll get the opposite result, i.e., she’ll feel an increased level of attraction. When you’re confident enough and interesting enough to walk away from a woman to whom you're attracted, you’ll become irresistibly interesting to the woman in question. 


Monday, August 8, 2016

Found Love? Now for the First Date

By Allie Cameron

It’s understandable to have a case of the jitters before your first date with someone new. Whether it’s a blind date or someone you’ve met on the Internet, that first face to face impression is crucial. Although you want the mood of the first date to feel casual and relaxed, that doesn’t mean you should be too casual with your preparations. You won’t ever get back the chance to make a first impression that rocks his or her world.

A first date should require at least as much preparation as an important job interview. You would never go into an interview wearing clothes that weren’t ironed or without brushing your teeth just before arriving. Treat your date with the same courtesy.


Monday, August 1, 2016

Online Dating: Three Things that Don't Translate Well in Emails

By Cameron Keene


Writing an email to someone you're interested in online is one of the most common ways to express interest in their profile and your desire to get to know them better. Unfortunately, some people don't take the time to create an interesting and engaging email that not only expresses their interest but also piques the interest of the person they are sending it to. Writing an email is significantly trickier than carrying on a conversation because you've lost the visual and auditory clues that help listeners determine your frame of mind and aid them in interpreting your intentions. There are a few things that simply don't translate well in writing that you should always avoid when writing an email to someone you're interested in:

Monday, July 25, 2016

Great Questions to Ask When Chatting



By Cameron Keene (Staff Writer)


That first date or telephone call can be intimidating. What will you talk about? You don’t want the conversation to grind to a halt while you stare at each other or hang uncomfortably on the line. If you find a lull in the conversation, there are some simple questions to ask that can jump-start things and give you a bit of insight into each other’s personalities.

• What is the most recent movie you’ve seen? What did you like/not like about it?

• What is the last book you read? Why did you choose it? Would you recommend it?

Monday, July 18, 2016

Flirting Online

By Cameron Keene


Part of the joy of dating is flirting.  The act of building suspense, tantalizing the other person and doing the endless, romantic dance of flirtation is heady stuff.  But flirting can be difficult to do when you’re exchanging emails and getting together in chat rooms instead of in real life.  You may not be able to wink, brush up against his body or give her a suggestive little hug, but you can certainly flirt online once you know how.

Monday, July 11, 2016

What's Your Cuddle Quotient?

By Cameron Keene (Staff Writer)

Nearly everyone agrees that cuddling up with your partner is important to a relationship, but recent studies have demonstrated that it's even more important than previously thought on a number of levels. It not only strengthens relationships, it improves optimism, gives individuals a sense of confidence and security and improves communication.

The Physical Response to Cuddling

Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Different Social Classes, Different Worlds?

By Cameron Keene (Staff Writer)

Different Social Classes, Different Worlds?

With more people making connections online every year, it's no surprise that more couples are getting together across wide gaps in socio-economic status. The Internet levels the playing field in many ways. People meet each other who would not normally cross each other's paths in the real world. Someone who was born into a wealthy family may connect online with a factory worker who lives in a distinctly blue collar neighborhood. While they may connect quickly on a personal level and share some interests (they like the same kind of movies, they both love to go camping, etc.), it is inevitable that other interests will be widely divergent due to class. A rich woman might consider it camping when she goes on a photo safari in Africa and sleeps in a fully staffed "cabin." The factory worker might consider camping sleeping in a small tent in the local state park.

Monday, June 27, 2016

Creating a Stellar Lesbian Online Dating Profile

By Cameron Keene (staff writer)

Once you’ve decided to try online dating to find a lesbian friend, partner or hook-up, you’ll need to keep a few tips in mind that will help you get the results you’re after with minimal fuss. Do take the time to put some thought into what you’re saying and how you’re saying it, though.  All those women out there are looking for someone special, and your profile has to be top quality to get you noticed.

Choose the Right Online Dating Website

No matter how much effort you pour into creating a stellar profile, if you’re on a dating website that doesn’t cater to lesbians, you aren’t going to get much response. Although most of the popular dating websites say they welcome members regardless of their sexual preferences, you’ll probably have better luck of you start out on a site that focuses on lesbian dating or gay and lesbian dating. The selection will be better and the whole mood of the site will be more welcoming. Many of these sites also have guest columnists writing articles on lesbian dating topics.

Capture Their Attention With an Upbeat Headline

Skip the generic, looking for love titles and avoid being too cutesy. Do try to keep your title interesting and a bit flirty. Being positive is also a good idea; a negative or suspicious headline can turn women off. They want some fun and possibly a relationship; they don’t want to be your therapist.  “Lipsticks Turn Me On” sounds good; “I’m Sick of Games” is a big red flag.

Post a Picture

I know you’ve heard this before, but I can’t stress the importance of this enough. Yes, attraction is based on a lot of things, but be honest. Don’t you check out the photos first? Guess what? They’re all checking out your photo, too. If it’s missing, reactions can range from disappointment to suspicion. Use a photo of yourself that shows you in a relaxed situation. And don’t forget to smile! It makes you seem much more approachable.

Address Gender Roles and Relationships

There are a couple of things this covers. First, be sure you’re clear on what kind of relationship you’re looking for. Are you looking for (and offering) the possibility of a long term relationship? Or is a hook-up what you’re after? Being clear on this can save one or both of you heartache down the line.

You should also clearly state what type of person you’re looking for. Are you a femme looking for a tomboy or butch? Are you more of a soft butch? Are you seeking a boi? It’s difficult enough to navigate today’s lesbian dating scene without causing confusion for women who may be intrigued by your photo or profile. Ask for what you want!

Be Unique

“I love to hold hands and enjoy dining out” fits just about anyone, whether butch or femme, gay or straight, male or female. Don’t post a long profile that doesn’t make you an individual with a unique and interesting life. If you like to dine out, talk about specific cuisines.  A profile that says, “I’m looking forward to trying the latest Pan-Asian restaurants in San Diego with someone who isn’t afraid of a bit of snuggling while we wait for our table,” tells so much more about your tastes!

Make Sure You’re Ready

Once you’ve written your profile, evaluate your reasons for joining on online dating site one more time. Are you ready for the responses you’ll get? If you’re excited at the prospect of getting some attention and getting to know some new women, post the profile and start surfing through members to find someone, or several someone’s, who seem interesting. If you’re dreading wading through the responses or can’t commit to visiting the site regularly, perhaps you should wait until you have the time or desire to take full advantage of what a lesbian online dating site has to offer.

Monday, June 20, 2016

Shutting Down the Ex Files: Stopping His/Her Ex Chatter

By Cameron Keene (staff writer)

We've all mentioned an ex-lover to our current partner at some point, but most of us do this only occasionally and usually for a valid reason. Perhaps we're telling our current partner about why the last relationship ended badly, or we're simply reminiscing about a particular day or event that we enjoyed. Whatever the reason, unless you plan on dating only people who have never had any kind of romantic relationship before you, we need to acknowledge that an ex will come up in conversation every once in a while. The key is to keep the information relevant and minimal. While your new partner shouldn't mind your reference to an ex when you're talking about a concert you attended together, he is she is well within her rights to shut you down if you're constantly mentioning the ex in every day conversation. 

Time May Be On Their Side

Monday, June 13, 2016

Right Person, Wrong Time? How Timing Can End a Relationship

By Cameron Keene (Staff writer)

In the early, romantic stages of a relationship, many people are convinced that they met their partner at just the right time in their lives - that they were fated to meet and fall in love. That may or may not be true, but the success of the relationship over longer stretches of time will depend upon any number of factors, not the least of which is timing. You can meet and fall in love with someone who loves you right back, but if the timing isn't right for both of you, one of you may have to walk away.

You Can Love Someone But Not Share Goals

Monday, June 6, 2016

Looking for a Jewish Dating Site?

Nowadays, the internet can help us do just about anything; even finding a date within the Jewish community. Today, many Jewish people meet through the help of the internet. If you are having a hard time finding yourself a date in the non-cyber world, you might want to turn to the internet for help. 

Jewish dating sites are geared towards meeting other Jewish people. It is a closely knit community where you can find people that are orthodox, non-orthodox or somewhere in between. We recommend that you start with a site like, JewishSinglesPlace.com. It is free to join and only takes a few minutes. 

Here are some tips that will help you with your online dating experience:

Monday, May 30, 2016

Confident Dating for Plus-Size Women

By: TangoWire


Lots of men today prefer a woman with some meat on their bones instead of a scrawny woman who is all bones and angles.  You’ll discover lots of men who are looking for someone just like you – amply endowed, with lots more of you to love!

Every woman has insecurities about her appearance when she’s dating.  If you’re a plus size woman, you may feel even more insecure when dating because the media is so focused on the desirability of thin women.  Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of thinking that your dating life can’t be successful until you lose weight.  Instead, learn to love yourself just the way you are and focus on your best features.  You’ll soon find yourself in a wonderful relationship with someone who appreciates all of you.

Friday, May 27, 2016

Seniors: Back In the Dating Game After Years of Marriage

By Avery Williams (Staff)


Whether you've divorced after years of being married or you're a widow or widower, it can be intimidating to think about dating again. The rules have changed over the years and you probably worry that you just don't know how to step into the dating life again. You aren't alone; millions of singles in their retirement years are discovering that they long for companionship after they've lost a spouse to divorce or death. The key to success for seniors is being honest with themselves and anyone they're dating about what they're really looking for.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Your Online Dating Profile Picture Matters

Your online dating profile may be a great one, but if the profile photo is a dud, many people will pass you by without reading a word.  You may already know that a good head and shoulders shot is best for your profile picture and that you shouldn’t post a photo from five years ago.  But did you know that what you’re wearing in your profile picture can also have an impact on your online dating chances?

Dressing for success in dating is different than dating for success in business.  You want to look approachable and friendly; the focus isn’t on professional and competent (unless you’d rather be his or her CPA than girlfriend or boyfriend).  

Monday, May 23, 2016

Gay Dating Personals

By Eric Morris

When you are single, meeting potential dates is intimidating. But men who date men have an additional worry to contend with: “When they learn I am gaywould they avoid me?”

This, however, does not imply that there are slim chances of finding gay men who would be interested in dating. The logic is, if you like a certain type of person (gay, in this instance), go where those types of people go. However, if you are shy of venturing into a gay bar, or live in an area that is not gay friendly, gay personals are a discreet way to connect with others in the gay community.

The days of negative stereotypes for personals are gone. Millions of people are finding compatible partners through personals, and gay personals are a good option to find gay men.  Whether you are looking for a relationship, a sex partner, or someone to hang out with, gay personals provide a meeting ground for same-sex guys to meet singles.

Friday, May 20, 2016

Keep Him (or Her) Guessing

By: TangoWire

When you haven’t met someone face to face, it can be difficult to keep your emails interesting and fresh, so spewing every detail about your personal life, your beliefs and your goals into the first few emails can be counter-productive...

Keep Him (or Her) Guessing

How much should you reveal about yourself when you’re using an online dating service? Although you want to be forthcoming in your answers to certain questions when you begin corresponding with someone you’ve met online, remember that too much information early on can be overwhelming.  When you haven’t met someone face to face, it can be difficult to keep your emails interesting and fresh, so spewing every detail about your personal life, your beliefs and your goals into the first few emails can be counter-productive.

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Four Great Lesbian First Dates

By Cameron Keene (staff writer)

You’ve met someone great online, and you’re ready to meet her, but you don’t know where to go for that crucial first date. The key is to meet somewhere casual so you don’t end up trying too hard or feeling uncomfortable. Forget trying to impress her by going someplace expensive and intimidating, and bypass the movies. How much will you learn about each other if you’re both staring at the screen for two hours in the dark? Avoiding lesbian bars or club is also a good idea. After all, you want to focus on each other, not everyone around you. A noisy club can also make meaningful conversation difficult. Instead, focus on finding a location that’s neutral but fun and that will encourage conversation without being intimidating.

Monday, May 16, 2016

4 Tips For Turning A Friend Into A Girlfriend

By David Wygant

For any of you who have been in the friend zone with a woman and wondered if there was a way out of it, here are four tips to help you get a woman to look at you in a different way:

1. Don't Sell Yourself: If you meet and become friends with a woman who has a boyfriend, don't sell yourself to her her at all. Get to know her over a period of time. If a woman is attracted to you as a person, she could become attracted to you a significant other. It all depends on at what place she is in her life. We all know that many relationships tend to "go south" and end. The problem is that a lot of men will meet a woman who is in a relationship and decide not to befriend her at all. Now we are not suggesting that you become the shoulder she comes to cry on when things are going wrong with her boyfriend. What we are suggesting is that you can get to know her as a person, because you never know where life may lead you down the road. So don't be a salesman, and don't berate her boyfriend. Get to know her. Be yourself. Have a good time with her, and see if natural chemistry develops between you. When you are genuine and take the time to get to know her as a person, she actually might start to look at you in a different light and end her relationship.

Friday, May 13, 2016

Choosing An Interracial Dating Site

If you are looking for love with a person outside of your ethnic group, there are a few things you should consider before joining a dating site.

Choosing a reputable interracial dating website is the first thing you should do. Because mixed race relationships are becoming more common, it won’t be difficult to find one with a decent size membership base. It is important you do your homework first though. Read reviews from other people regarding the site and make sure you are aware of any cost that may be involved. When writing about yourself and your ideal mate in your profile remember to be sensitive to the fact that the people looking through it may have different cultural differences to yourself. Avoid slang terminology and stereotypes, even if it is seen as socially acceptable or you believe it to be humorous. Your profile is your first impression, in the 30 seconds it takes a person to read it; they will form an opinion on you. This is why it is important to make sure that their opinion is a true reflection of the real you.

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Dating BBW - Big Beautiful Women Need Love Too

By Kevin Hope

As a woman, when you are working with BBW dating websites, one thing that you need to consider is how to put together your profile properly to attract the man you are after. This is a very necessary things because you need to know that the first impression is everything. The profile you put up is the first thing that a potential dater sees and you need to make the right first impression. Here are some of the mistakes that many larger women make.

Monday, May 9, 2016

5 Quick Tips For Dealing With Rejection

By David Wygant

So there you are at the deli counter getting a sandwich, when that person you're attracted to comes and stands right next to you at the counter. You've seen them over and over again at the store, and you finally have the guts to turn and smile at them . . . and they do NOTHING in return. They just look at you almost like you're not even there. They almost look right through you like you don't exist.

So you grab your sandwich and run out of there as quickly as you possibly can, saying to yourself “I will NEVER do that again. This doesn't work. The next time I go back there I am just not going to smile anymore.” Is this the best way to deal with rejection? How do you personally deal with rejection? More importantly, are you someone who believes that if you become “good” at dating that you will no longer get rejected?

Friday, May 6, 2016

Online Dating – When Does the First Date Happen?

Online dating is unique.  In most cases, you get to know the person long before you actually meet them.  Sometimes it can be difficult to gauge when, exactly, you should get together for the first time.  If you’ve been exchanging emails for a while and visiting chat rooms so you can talk, you may be ready for the next step, but how do you know for sure?

Wednesday, May 4, 2016

15 Online Dating Disasters Women Make - Part Two

By David Wygant

This is the second of my two part list of 15 Online Dating Disasters Women Make.  

The first 8 mistakes included detailed advice regarding profile photos that don't work, over-emphasizing your negative views of online dating, being less than honest about your age and body type, and using too many words to get your point across. 

Now, let’s take a look at the next 7 in the list. 

Monday, May 2, 2016

Dating Tips and Ideas for the Month of May

Permission to use from Dating Guide Magazine

Looking for some dating inspiration for the month of May? You'll find plenty of dating ideas for you and your partner in this article on Dating Tips for the Month of May.

Whether you’re just dating or married and need time away with your partner, you will find no shortage of holidays and celebrations in the merry month of May. Below are some great ideas we at Dating Guide Magazine have brain stormed to help generate some romance and love in your life. So grab a picnic basket with wine, cheese, and a baguette and head out for some fun.

April Showers do Bring May Flowers

May is considered the flower month. A stroll in a park or visit to a botanical garden is a great way to meet on your first date. How about a nice picnic in a meadow surrounded by wild flowers; don’t forget the wine!

Friday, April 29, 2016

15 Online Dating Disasters Women Make - Part One

By David Wygant

Recently I was coaching a woman on how to write the perfect profile for her personal ad online. So before we wrote the profile, I asked her to send me her four best pictures.

I asked her to do this because men are as visual as Scooby Doo on steroids and the first thing they do when they see your profile online is NOT read about your trip to Italy last summer. They want to see how hot you are. Keep in mind that every man has different taste in women. What I find attractive, my friend may not find attractive at all.

So I explained this to my client and I asked her to send me her four best pictures . . . pictures that represent who she is in her life. What she sent me is mistake #1 of the mistakes women make online.

Here are the first 8 biggest online dating disasters women make:

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

You Have Fallen In Love With Your Best Friend's Ex?

By David Wygant

Perhaps your best friend in the entire world was dating an amazing girl, and the whole time they were dating all you kept thinking was, "Why can't I meet somebody like her?" Every time you hung out with them in a group, you had such great chemistry with her. She was so cool. You always told your buddy how lucky he was to have a woman like her.

Now they've broken up, and she’s started calling you. She tells you she’s starting to have feelings for you. At the same time, your best friend still talks about her and wonders if he did something wrong. You’re in love with your best friend's ex, and she is in love with you. How do you handle this? What do you do in this situation?

Monday, April 25, 2016

Forgetting the Fairytale: Romance in the 21st Century


Most of us were fed romantic visions when we were children. Disney movies and romantic storybooks talked about a man on a white horse who would come crashing into our lives and romantically sweep us off our feet. Unfortunately, even if a modern prince did step into our lives, he wouldn't look twice at a helpless damsel in distress. He'd be looking for an independent woman who could take care of herself.

The Modern Heroine

Even movies and television programs are retooling the concept of what's romantic. There is an independent, strong, capable woman who is a weapons expert named Fiona in "Burn Notice," a popular suspense series.  And the children's movie "Shrek," the princess is capable of fighting off her attackers without any intervention by Shrek. Interestingly enough, his lady love is also named Fiona. These aren't the heroines of the old days who wait to be rescued - they do plenty of rescuing themselves!


Friday, April 22, 2016

When Should You Introduce Your Significant Other to Your Family?



Most of us have parents who want what's best for us, and most of us look forward to introducing someone we care about to our families, but knowing when to do this can be tricky. After all, you don't necessarily want them to meet everyone you've ever casually dated; it can lead to questions and disappointed expectations. You also don't want to wait until you're already engaged or have moved in together; waiting too long can lead to hurt feelings and misunderstandings. So how do you know the time is right to introduce your boyfriend or girlfriend to your parents and siblings? Here are some signs that it's time to arrange the introductions:

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

First Date Safety – Better Safe Than Sorry

When it’s time to meet that special someone you met online for the first time, don’t throw caution to the wind and jump in without considering your safety. While you may have been exchanging emails, talking on the phone or using the latest virtual dating technologies for weeks, this doesn’t mean you know the person well enough to take your safety for granted. Always be cautious and watch for signs of potential trouble. While the majority of first dates will be perfectly safe, it’s better to be cautious now than to regret your choices later.


Monday, April 18, 2016

Eight Signs of a Quality Man

Online dating can help you meet lots of interesting men, but not all of them will be the kind you want to spend the rest of your life with.  If you’re looking for a quality man for the long haul, you need to look for these key signs that he’s a keeper:

1. He Isn’t A “Fixer-Upper”

So many women make the mistake of falling in love with a man who is wonderful, romantic and attractive “except for a few little things.” They delude themselves into thinking they can fix his flaws once they’ve landed him. If you can’t love him just the way he is right now, move on. It isn’t fair to expect any man to change for you, and over time those little flaws will start to turn into huge problems. Remember when Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck were dating? She tried to overhaul his wardrobe and his friends when they got engaged. Luckily, he bowed out of the relationship and found someone who loves him just the (awesome) way he is.

Friday, April 15, 2016

Online Dating and “Deal Breakers” – Knowing What You Can and Can’t Accept

Dating discussions around the globe have focused on what constitutes a “deal breaker” in relationships, but there’s never been a consensus. What may be absolutely unacceptable to you could be seen as a charming idiosyncrasy by others. Many people who are new to online dating are so worried about listing the many deal breakers they don’t want to deal with that they end up alienating potential matches over petty concerns.

Understand What A Real “Deal Breaker” Is

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Online Dating’s Stigma Begins to Fade

In the early days of online dating, there was a definite stigma attached to signing up for any kind of online dating service. Most people looked askance at dating sites, assuming only the truly lonely, desperate or weird singles bothered to look for love online. Today, the stigma is quickly fading as more people sign up every year and online relationships become part of the mainstream. Successful, interesting and attractive people are increasingly discovering that online dating services provide the ideal way to meet new people.

Monday, April 11, 2016

Online Dating Wisdom for the Real World

Online dating can be fun and exciting, but you’ll also run into some pitfalls along the way. If you pay attention, you’ll quickly learn some valuable life lessons while you’re surfing the Internet for a soul mate, life partner, or best friend. There are four important lessons I learned while online dating that every single adult should keep in mind:

You Never Know Unless You Give It a Try

It sounds simple, but plenty of men and women won’t bother even trying online dating because their brother, best friend, or boss tried it and didn’t like it. Some people try online dating because someone they know found their boyfriend, fiancé or husband after just a few weeks online; then, when they haven’t found someone after four months, they feel like they’ve been cheated.

Friday, April 8, 2016

Breaking Up With Class

It’s never easy to break up with someone you’ve been dating. If you met online and felt like the two of you were really clicking, it can be disappointing when you meet in person and realize it’s not quite right. Breaking up is part of the dating scene, but it’s often handled poorly, leading to misunderstandings, sorrow, and anger. To minimize the damage and show your respect for the people you’re dating, keep these break-up pointers in mind when you’re ready to move on:

Don’t Two-Time

It’s humiliating to learn that someone you’ve been dating exclusively has actually been seeing someone else behind your back. Don’t do this to anyone you’ve met online dating – their anger and hurt can lead to unfortunate confrontations, and you don’t want the reputation of being a cheater. Before you start dating someone else, make sure your current partner knows it is definitely over.


Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Ten Online Dating Mistakes Men Make

1. Posting Pictures That Don’t Focus on You

You may think your boat or your fabulous car should be featured in your profile picture, but most women will see this as a lame attempt to brag about your possessions. They will also wonder why you’re hiding behind your stuff in order to avoid focusing on yourself. If we want to date a Ferrari, we’ll go to a car dealership. Your picture should be about YOU. The only exception is if you have a nice picture of you with your dog, which can say a lot about your nurturing personality. Even then, don’t make it your main picture.