Friday, April 29, 2016

15 Online Dating Disasters Women Make - Part One

By David Wygant

Recently I was coaching a woman on how to write the perfect profile for her personal ad online. So before we wrote the profile, I asked her to send me her four best pictures.

I asked her to do this because men are as visual as Scooby Doo on steroids and the first thing they do when they see your profile online is NOT read about your trip to Italy last summer. They want to see how hot you are. Keep in mind that every man has different taste in women. What I find attractive, my friend may not find attractive at all.

So I explained this to my client and I asked her to send me her four best pictures . . . pictures that represent who she is in her life. What she sent me is mistake #1 of the mistakes women make online.

Here are the first 8 biggest online dating disasters women make:

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

You Have Fallen In Love With Your Best Friend's Ex?

By David Wygant

Perhaps your best friend in the entire world was dating an amazing girl, and the whole time they were dating all you kept thinking was, "Why can't I meet somebody like her?" Every time you hung out with them in a group, you had such great chemistry with her. She was so cool. You always told your buddy how lucky he was to have a woman like her.

Now they've broken up, and she’s started calling you. She tells you she’s starting to have feelings for you. At the same time, your best friend still talks about her and wonders if he did something wrong. You’re in love with your best friend's ex, and she is in love with you. How do you handle this? What do you do in this situation?

Monday, April 25, 2016

Forgetting the Fairytale: Romance in the 21st Century

Most of us were fed romantic visions when we were children. Disney movies and romantic storybooks talked about a man on a white horse who would come crashing into our lives and romantically sweep us off our feet. Unfortunately, even if a modern prince did step into our lives, he wouldn't look twice at a helpless damsel in distress. He'd be looking for an independent woman who could take care of herself.

The Modern Heroine

Even movies and television programs are retooling the concept of what's romantic. There is an independent, strong, capable woman who is a weapons expert named Fiona in "Burn Notice," a popular suspense series.  And the children's movie "Shrek," the princess is capable of fighting off her attackers without any intervention by Shrek. Interestingly enough, his lady love is also named Fiona. These aren't the heroines of the old days who wait to be rescued - they do plenty of rescuing themselves!

Friday, April 22, 2016

When Should You Introduce Your Significant Other to Your Family?

Most of us have parents who want what's best for us, and most of us look forward to introducing someone we care about to our families, but knowing when to do this can be tricky. After all, you don't necessarily want them to meet everyone you've ever casually dated; it can lead to questions and disappointed expectations. You also don't want to wait until you're already engaged or have moved in together; waiting too long can lead to hurt feelings and misunderstandings. So how do you know the time is right to introduce your boyfriend or girlfriend to your parents and siblings? Here are some signs that it's time to arrange the introductions:

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

First Date Safety – Better Safe Than Sorry

When it’s time to meet that special someone you met online for the first time, don’t throw caution to the wind and jump in without considering your safety. While you may have been exchanging emails, talking on the phone or using the latest virtual dating technologies for weeks, this doesn’t mean you know the person well enough to take your safety for granted. Always be cautious and watch for signs of potential trouble. While the majority of first dates will be perfectly safe, it’s better to be cautious now than to regret your choices later.

Monday, April 18, 2016

Eight Signs of a Quality Man

Online dating can help you meet lots of interesting men, but not all of them will be the kind you want to spend the rest of your life with.  If you’re looking for a quality man for the long haul, you need to look for these key signs that he’s a keeper:

1. He Isn’t A “Fixer-Upper”

So many women make the mistake of falling in love with a man who is wonderful, romantic and attractive “except for a few little things.” They delude themselves into thinking they can fix his flaws once they’ve landed him. If you can’t love him just the way he is right now, move on. It isn’t fair to expect any man to change for you, and over time those little flaws will start to turn into huge problems. Remember when Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck were dating? She tried to overhaul his wardrobe and his friends when they got engaged. Luckily, he bowed out of the relationship and found someone who loves him just the (awesome) way he is.

Friday, April 15, 2016

Online Dating and “Deal Breakers” – Knowing What You Can and Can’t Accept

Dating discussions around the globe have focused on what constitutes a “deal breaker” in relationships, but there’s never been a consensus. What may be absolutely unacceptable to you could be seen as a charming idiosyncrasy by others. Many people who are new to online dating are so worried about listing the many deal breakers they don’t want to deal with that they end up alienating potential matches over petty concerns.

Understand What A Real “Deal Breaker” Is

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Online Dating’s Stigma Begins to Fade

In the early days of online dating, there was a definite stigma attached to signing up for any kind of online dating service. Most people looked askance at dating sites, assuming only the truly lonely, desperate or weird singles bothered to look for love online. Today, the stigma is quickly fading as more people sign up every year and online relationships become part of the mainstream. Successful, interesting and attractive people are increasingly discovering that online dating services provide the ideal way to meet new people.

Monday, April 11, 2016

Online Dating Wisdom for the Real World

Online dating can be fun and exciting, but you’ll also run into some pitfalls along the way. If you pay attention, you’ll quickly learn some valuable life lessons while you’re surfing the Internet for a soul mate, life partner, or best friend. There are four important lessons I learned while online dating that every single adult should keep in mind:

You Never Know Unless You Give It a Try

It sounds simple, but plenty of men and women won’t bother even trying online dating because their brother, best friend, or boss tried it and didn’t like it. Some people try online dating because someone they know found their boyfriend, fiancé or husband after just a few weeks online; then, when they haven’t found someone after four months, they feel like they’ve been cheated.

Friday, April 8, 2016

Breaking Up With Class

It’s never easy to break up with someone you’ve been dating. If you met online and felt like the two of you were really clicking, it can be disappointing when you meet in person and realize it’s not quite right. Breaking up is part of the dating scene, but it’s often handled poorly, leading to misunderstandings, sorrow, and anger. To minimize the damage and show your respect for the people you’re dating, keep these break-up pointers in mind when you’re ready to move on:

Don’t Two-Time

It’s humiliating to learn that someone you’ve been dating exclusively has actually been seeing someone else behind your back. Don’t do this to anyone you’ve met online dating – their anger and hurt can lead to unfortunate confrontations, and you don’t want the reputation of being a cheater. Before you start dating someone else, make sure your current partner knows it is definitely over.

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Ten Online Dating Mistakes Men Make

1. Posting Pictures That Don’t Focus on You

You may think your boat or your fabulous car should be featured in your profile picture, but most women will see this as a lame attempt to brag about your possessions. They will also wonder why you’re hiding behind your stuff in order to avoid focusing on yourself. If we want to date a Ferrari, we’ll go to a car dealership. Your picture should be about YOU. The only exception is if you have a nice picture of you with your dog, which can say a lot about your nurturing personality. Even then, don’t make it your main picture.