Monday, August 29, 2016

Three Things You Can Do Right When Sending an Online Dating Email

By Cameron Keene

When you sit down to write your initial email, you should:

• Keep it short and sweet. Be honest, be charming and don't ramble. Two to three paragraphs is a good length for the initial email. As time goes on and you exchange more information, you can gradually increase the length of your emails, but avoid going over two pages even after you've corresponded for a while. 

Monday, August 22, 2016

Stop Texting And Start Talking!

By David Wygant

This week's article is directed to the women out there, but I know all you guys can relate to this situation as well.

It is difficult for most guys to approach a group of women. Women are just brutal about going out in packs of three or four, and then huddling together, whispering, laughing and exchanging mysterious confidences. It's really intimidating for a lot of guys to approach a group of women in order to meet one woman in whom he's interested.

There is something I see going on time and time again in these "packs" of women that I really wanted to address. I can't tell you how many times I've gone out and seen a man approach one of these packs of women, and there will be one woman who sits there texting someone who is not even there, but giving the text recipient a blow by blow of what's going on around her.

You can imagine the texts now. "Oh Mary, you should really come here. There are so many cute guys here." I would want to ask our texter this: How would YOU know? You're not even paying attention!

When you're out and with a group of people, don't text another person who is not there. It's hard enough for guys to approach you in the first place. You don't want to be that woman who is just texting away nonstop, because it means that you are not present in the moment. If you're not present in the moment, then you're going to miss tons of opportunities to meet someone.

So from now on if you're out with a group and feel compelled to have a text chat, take yourself to the bathroom and do it when you're alone. Don't text people when you're in a restaurant or bar when you're out to meet people. Spending time texting instead of talking means you’ll miss a lot of real, live connections.

Don’t give your attention to someone who isn't there, because in the process you’re also ignoring people who are there. In particular, you are ignoring any men with whom you could possibly be connecting at that moment. Do you really want those men to look at you and dismiss you as rude? Do you want them to think, “She’s not even paying attention. What a waste of my time she’d be?”

So start opening up your energy and you mouth – talk! The truth is that if you are out in one of these "women packs," you are going to have to bring something to the table if you want men to approach you and engage in any interaction. Four women will be out together in a football-like huddle, and they will wonder why guys aren't approaching them. If you’re busy texting, the guys around you don’t want to interrupt and they feel awkward trying to get your attention away from your cell phone.

If you want men to approach you in this situation, your energy has to change. You have to smile. You've got to face the room, and not have your back turned to the crowd of people around you, which makes it almost impossible for men to approach you.

When you open your energy by facing the crowd and smiling, you make it easier for men to break into your pack. So the next time you're out and one of your friends is texting, grab her phone and tell her to put it away. Remind her why you’re out and encourage her to be open and positive. You will all have a much more enjoyable night!

David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching and his website, his advice has transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of people. His funny, yet direct, approach to dating, sex and relationships has revolutionized how people meet and interact. He offers his advice across a wide media spectrum including MTV, The New York Times, MSNBC, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health and E! Entertainment Television -- as well as on over 2,000 radio shows.

Monday, August 15, 2016

Walk Away

By David Wygant

In order to grab the woman you want, you need to learn the art of walking away. 

Most men will not walk away. Most men make the mistake of meeting a new woman, then clinging to her immediately in hopes moving things forward. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work with most women, who don’t appreciate such an immediate, full-court press.

If you go to a party, find a woman you want to talk to, smother her, and won’t leave her alone for the duration of the evening, your attractiveness will quickly diminish in her eyes as the evening continues. If, however, you are willing to give her some time and space, you’ll get the opposite result, i.e., she’ll feel an increased level of attraction. When you’re confident enough and interesting enough to walk away from a woman to whom you're attracted, you’ll become irresistibly interesting to the woman in question. 

Monday, August 8, 2016

Found Love? Now for the First Date

By Allie Cameron

It’s understandable to have a case of the jitters before your first date with someone new. Whether it’s a blind date or someone you’ve met on the Internet, that first face to face impression is crucial. Although you want the mood of the first date to feel casual and relaxed, that doesn’t mean you should be too casual with your preparations. You won’t ever get back the chance to make a first impression that rocks his or her world.

A first date should require at least as much preparation as an important job interview. You would never go into an interview wearing clothes that weren’t ironed or without brushing your teeth just before arriving. Treat your date with the same courtesy.

Monday, August 1, 2016

Online Dating: Three Things that Don't Translate Well in Emails

By Cameron Keene

Writing an email to someone you're interested in online is one of the most common ways to express interest in their profile and your desire to get to know them better. Unfortunately, some people don't take the time to create an interesting and engaging email that not only expresses their interest but also piques the interest of the person they are sending it to. Writing an email is significantly trickier than carrying on a conversation because you've lost the visual and auditory clues that help listeners determine your frame of mind and aid them in interpreting your intentions. There are a few things that simply don't translate well in writing that you should always avoid when writing an email to someone you're interested in: