Monday, June 27, 2016

Creating a Stellar Lesbian Online Dating Profile

By Cameron Keene (staff writer)

Once you’ve decided to try online dating to find a lesbian friend, partner or hook-up, you’ll need to keep a few tips in mind that will help you get the results you’re after with minimal fuss. Do take the time to put some thought into what you’re saying and how you’re saying it, though.  All those women out there are looking for someone special, and your profile has to be top quality to get you noticed.

Choose the Right Online Dating Website

No matter how much effort you pour into creating a stellar profile, if you’re on a dating website that doesn’t cater to lesbians, you aren’t going to get much response. Although most of the popular dating websites say they welcome members regardless of their sexual preferences, you’ll probably have better luck of you start out on a site that focuses on lesbian dating or gay and lesbian dating. The selection will be better and the whole mood of the site will be more welcoming. Many of these sites also have guest columnists writing articles on lesbian dating topics.

Capture Their Attention With an Upbeat Headline

Skip the generic, looking for love titles and avoid being too cutesy. Do try to keep your title interesting and a bit flirty. Being positive is also a good idea; a negative or suspicious headline can turn women off. They want some fun and possibly a relationship; they don’t want to be your therapist.  “Lipsticks Turn Me On” sounds good; “I’m Sick of Games” is a big red flag.

Post a Picture

I know you’ve heard this before, but I can’t stress the importance of this enough. Yes, attraction is based on a lot of things, but be honest. Don’t you check out the photos first? Guess what? They’re all checking out your photo, too. If it’s missing, reactions can range from disappointment to suspicion. Use a photo of yourself that shows you in a relaxed situation. And don’t forget to smile! It makes you seem much more approachable.

Address Gender Roles and Relationships

There are a couple of things this covers. First, be sure you’re clear on what kind of relationship you’re looking for. Are you looking for (and offering) the possibility of a long term relationship? Or is a hook-up what you’re after? Being clear on this can save one or both of you heartache down the line.

You should also clearly state what type of person you’re looking for. Are you a femme looking for a tomboy or butch? Are you more of a soft butch? Are you seeking a boi? It’s difficult enough to navigate today’s lesbian dating scene without causing confusion for women who may be intrigued by your photo or profile. Ask for what you want!

Be Unique

“I love to hold hands and enjoy dining out” fits just about anyone, whether butch or femme, gay or straight, male or female. Don’t post a long profile that doesn’t make you an individual with a unique and interesting life. If you like to dine out, talk about specific cuisines.  A profile that says, “I’m looking forward to trying the latest Pan-Asian restaurants in San Diego with someone who isn’t afraid of a bit of snuggling while we wait for our table,” tells so much more about your tastes!

Make Sure You’re Ready

Once you’ve written your profile, evaluate your reasons for joining on online dating site one more time. Are you ready for the responses you’ll get? If you’re excited at the prospect of getting some attention and getting to know some new women, post the profile and start surfing through members to find someone, or several someone’s, who seem interesting. If you’re dreading wading through the responses or can’t commit to visiting the site regularly, perhaps you should wait until you have the time or desire to take full advantage of what a lesbian online dating site has to offer.

Monday, June 20, 2016

Shutting Down the Ex Files: Stopping His/Her Ex Chatter

By Cameron Keene (staff writer)

We've all mentioned an ex-lover to our current partner at some point, but most of us do this only occasionally and usually for a valid reason. Perhaps we're telling our current partner about why the last relationship ended badly, or we're simply reminiscing about a particular day or event that we enjoyed. Whatever the reason, unless you plan on dating only people who have never had any kind of romantic relationship before you, we need to acknowledge that an ex will come up in conversation every once in a while. The key is to keep the information relevant and minimal. While your new partner shouldn't mind your reference to an ex when you're talking about a concert you attended together, he is she is well within her rights to shut you down if you're constantly mentioning the ex in every day conversation. 

Time May Be On Their Side

Monday, June 13, 2016

Right Person, Wrong Time? How Timing Can End a Relationship

By Cameron Keene (Staff writer)

In the early, romantic stages of a relationship, many people are convinced that they met their partner at just the right time in their lives - that they were fated to meet and fall in love. That may or may not be true, but the success of the relationship over longer stretches of time will depend upon any number of factors, not the least of which is timing. You can meet and fall in love with someone who loves you right back, but if the timing isn't right for both of you, one of you may have to walk away.

You Can Love Someone But Not Share Goals

Monday, June 6, 2016

Looking for a Jewish Dating Site?

Nowadays, the internet can help us do just about anything; even finding a date within the Jewish community. Today, many Jewish people meet through the help of the internet. If you are having a hard time finding yourself a date in the non-cyber world, you might want to turn to the internet for help. 

Jewish dating sites are geared towards meeting other Jewish people. It is a closely knit community where you can find people that are orthodox, non-orthodox or somewhere in between. We recommend that you start with a site like, JewishSinglesPlace.com. It is free to join and only takes a few minutes. 

Here are some tips that will help you with your online dating experience: